List people fascinate me.
I am not one of them.
My life rarely fits on a post-it.
My calendar program is pushed to its limits with all the differing colours I have assigned to sections of my life.
Flexibility is the number one rule of my life. If I can't perform in a situation that arises in your life on the fly, I find that that would mean I can't function in my life.
But list people can. They have to-do lists. Shopping lists. Calendars in print, in a spiral notebook, and on a wall. Some are even nuts enough to have post-its filling up their books. This baffles me the most.
I never write in a book. If the author meant for something to flit across my psyche, she would have written it there. If he reminds of of something or I need to process it, I feel I owe the author due respect to get my own book, and I will often grab my journal when reading and jot down a few quick thoughts especially if something applies directly to me.
Now, far be it from me to condemn list people, we have a simple difference of opinion that in reality affects almost nothing. Unless someone writes in my book, and then something funny might be said (and it's happened before, luckily it was pencil so it was even less of a problem then say, sipping from my coke).
That said, I had a friend once who had a list of things she was looking for in a guy. I have to tell you, even though we weren't technically dating at the time, I saw from her list, which was quite exhaustive by my own admittedly paltry standards, that I was missing about thirteen qualities right off the bat. Now, this is hardly the forum for such an exhaustive list and I have absolutely no intentions of compiling such a list.
It'd drive me nuts.
I am odd in that I am very flexible and rarely have set plans and goals yet am really focused on precision when the time comes. If I had a list, no matter how much I cared about someone, the list is the law, and if you don't have a quality on the list, that's that.
But there is one thing I've always wanted in someone: challenge.
I want someone who can look me in the eye and say I'm nuts.
Or that I'm wrong.
Or perhaps more importantly see me doing something harmful to me or my friends and have the courage to call me out on it, no matter who's around.
I want someone who can go toe to toe with me on theology. Theology is simpler than people realize. No matter how much training you have, you can beg to differ from even Thomas Aquinas on the grounds that your life experience has shown otherwise.
I want someone who cares about politics, social justice, and so on and where I'm apathetic can show me that.
Who knows, maybe this is a freakishly exhaustive list, but to me, that's one quality. Who know's if that's out there, I've only seen it twice. I'm not saying that I'm above people or anything, but few people are willing to step up to the plate and challenge you about faith, politics, and the fact that you have been behaving like an idiot and should probably stop. This has something to do with our culture I think, but that's an essay for another day.
So if there's one thing I'm looking for, that'd be it. And in what could be seen as another freakish moment for myself, all the rest are variables that have little bearing on the situation.
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